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On The Safe Edge - A Manual for SM Play

On The Safe Edge - A Manual for SM Play Image

Trevor Jacques with Dr.Dale, Michael Hamilton, and Sniffer. WholeSM Publishing Corporation, 1993

Key Elements:
A complete manual for all things related to SM, it references to a wide range of SM topics.

The books covers the following:

What is SM?
And a few things that it is not, it is not sexual masochism, it is not sexual sadism, and it is not a mental disorder
Coming Out Into SM. Why; the inside drive to do it, How; coming out to others and meeting others, Social- local, national, bars, networking, phone lines, Publications, Computer Bulletin Boards, Professional Dominants, etc.

The Mind
Fantasy and Reality – Imagination and creativity
Fantasy – With whom do we want to play, what forms could play take, where do we like to play, when would we like to play, how do we play, why do we do it
Reality – The main parts of the real world that can play a part in modifying a fantasy, safety respect and consideration for others, you can’t always have all you want, fantasy may be more than reality can handle, punishment reality can mean facing truths about oneself
Creativity – Create a scenario and then work on how to enact it
Roles – Dominant and submissive, sadistic and masochistic, aggressive and passive, top and bottom-who is which, acting out a role for a scene, living a role (the degree and extent of role plays), role reversal (playing the other role)
Responsibilities and other duties – consent (understanding the importance of informed consent)
Responsibilities (who for which, negotiation-making sure that anything that may affect the current scene
is well understood by your partner, who is in charge, top and bottom should establish the scene before hand, bottom must signal wishes to go further, tops must recognise problem)
Trust – (an important ingredient in creating a scene that works)
Panic – (hyperventilation, anticipating panic)
Spiritual and Ritual

The Body
Anatomy – (what takes place beneath the skin) contains illustrations of the male and female body-the difference between the sexes, erogenous zone, percussion, bondage, insertional activities, cock and ball play, electrotorture, physiology, endorphins, threshold of pain.
Play (the mechanics of play)-topics related to SM play, cue (aural cue, visual cue, tactile cue, oral cue, nasal cue), stimulation (aural stimulation, visual stimulation, tactile stimulation, oral stimulation, olfactory stimulation) ramping up and down

Safety
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Cleanliness and Disinfection – Condoms, dental dams, latex gloves, cleaning of toys, cleaning of people, cleaning the ass for play
Mind Altering Substances – alcohol, amphetamines, barbiturates, cannabis, cocaine and crack, hallucinogens, options, volatile nitrites, volatile solvents
Emotions and the Psyche
First Aid
Reasons and Uses for Pain
Stop the Scene
Incidents -fainting, diabetes reaction
Accidents – bleeding, dislocated joints, fractures, and concussion, damaged ligaments, burns (first degree, second degree, third degree)
First Aid Kit for the Play Room
Safety Considerations-silent alarm, medical conditions

Bondage
Auto bondage, collars, genital bondage, handcuffs, shackles and other mental bondage, hoods, gags, blindfolds, gasmasks, leather, Mummification, rope
Insertional Practices-
Fisting, long-term scenes oral sex, percussion play, aerosolization of blood, scat, water sports and raunch, suspension and inversion, miscellaneous considerations
Equipment- toys (blood letting toys, bondage toys), Genital bondage equipment, chastity belts, cockrings and straps, covers, cages and sheaths, head bondage toys, hospital restraints, mental restraints, mummification, rope toys, cock and ball toys, electrical toys, current devices, voltage devices, insertional toys, catheters and sounds, scat and watersport equipment, suspension and inversion toys, bondage suits, inversion boots, mailbags, slings, suspension, harness, temperature toys, branding, cigarettes, cigars, matches, flaming heat, hot wax, ice, tiger balm, ben gay and other skin stimulants, tit toys, vaginal toys, whips, paddles, rods and other percussive toys and safety items for the playroom
Etiquette (codes of behaviour)-
Honesty, scene is failing, bar etiquette, bedroom etiquette, playroom etiquette

Further Reading and Viewing
Appendix A: Safer sex and drug policies
Appendix B: Group SM courtesy
Appendix C: SM questionnaires
Appendix D: The $35 Toybag
Appendix E: Hanky colour codes
Appendix F: Contact and terms and abbreviations

On The Safe Edge - A Manual for SM Play

On The Safe Edge - A Manual for SM Play Image

Trevor Jacques with Dr.Dale, Michael Hamilton, and Sniffer. WholeSM Publishing Corporation, 1993

Key Elements:
A complete manual for all things related to SM, it references to a wide range of SM topics.

The books covers the following:

What is SM?
And a few things that it is not, it is not sexual masochism, it is not sexual sadism, and it is not a mental disorder
Coming Out Into SM. Why; the inside drive to do it, How; coming out to others and meeting others, Social- local, national, bars, networking, phone lines, Publications, Computer Bulletin Boards, Professional Dominants, etc.

The Mind
Fantasy and Reality – Imagination and creativity
Fantasy – With whom do we want to play, what forms could play take, where do we like to play, when would we like to play, how do we play, why do we do it
Reality – The main parts of the real world that can play a part in modifying a fantasy, safety respect and consideration for others, you can’t always have all you want, fantasy may be more than reality can handle, punishment reality can mean facing truths about oneself
Creativity – Create a scenario and then work on how to enact it
Roles – Dominant and submissive, sadistic and masochistic, aggressive and passive, top and bottom-who is which, acting out a role for a scene, living a role (the degree and extent of role plays), role reversal (playing the other role)
Responsibilities and other duties – consent (understanding the importance of informed consent)
Responsibilities (who for which, negotiation-making sure that anything that may affect the current scene
is well understood by your partner, who is in charge, top and bottom should establish the scene before hand, bottom must signal wishes to go further, tops must recognise problem)
Trust – (an important ingredient in creating a scene that works)
Panic – (hyperventilation, anticipating panic)
Spiritual and Ritual

The Body
Anatomy – (what takes place beneath the skin) contains illustrations of the male and female body-the difference between the sexes, erogenous zone, percussion, bondage, insertional activities, cock and ball play, electrotorture, physiology, endorphins, threshold of pain.
Play (the mechanics of play)-topics related to SM play, cue (aural cue, visual cue, tactile cue, oral cue, nasal cue), stimulation (aural stimulation, visual stimulation, tactile stimulation, oral stimulation, olfactory stimulation) ramping up and down

Safety
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Cleanliness and Disinfection – Condoms, dental dams, latex gloves, cleaning of toys, cleaning of people, cleaning the ass for play
Mind Altering Substances – alcohol, amphetamines, barbiturates, cannabis, cocaine and crack, hallucinogens, options, volatile nitrites, volatile solvents
Emotions and the Psyche
First Aid
Reasons and Uses for Pain
Stop the Scene
Incidents -fainting, diabetes reaction
Accidents – bleeding, dislocated joints, fractures, and concussion, damaged ligaments, burns (first degree, second degree, third degree)
First Aid Kit for the Play Room
Safety Considerations-silent alarm, medical conditions

Bondage
Auto bondage, collars, genital bondage, handcuffs, shackles and other mental bondage, hoods, gags, blindfolds, gasmasks, leather, Mummification, rope
Insertional Practices-
Fisting, long-term scenes oral sex, percussion play, aerosolization of blood, scat, water sports and raunch, suspension and inversion, miscellaneous considerations
Equipment- toys (blood letting toys, bondage toys), Genital bondage equipment, chastity belts, cockrings and straps, covers, cages and sheaths, head bondage toys, hospital restraints, mental restraints, mummification, rope toys, cock and ball toys, electrical toys, current devices, voltage devices, insertional toys, catheters and sounds, scat and watersport equipment, suspension and inversion toys, bondage suits, inversion boots, mailbags, slings, suspension, harness, temperature toys, branding, cigarettes, cigars, matches, flaming heat, hot wax, ice, tiger balm, ben gay and other skin stimulants, tit toys, vaginal toys, whips, paddles, rods and other percussive toys and safety items for the playroom
Etiquette (codes of behaviour)-
Honesty, scene is failing, bar etiquette, bedroom etiquette, playroom etiquette

Further Reading and Viewing
Appendix A: Safer sex and drug policies
Appendix B: Group SM courtesy
Appendix C: SM questionnaires
Appendix D: The $35 Toybag
Appendix E: Hanky colour codes
Appendix F: Contact and terms and abbreviations

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