Knowledge

This section contains recommendations of books for LGBTIQ and gender and sexual diversity therapists and clients, and provides links to other suitable organisations.

If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex or any other gender or sexual preference and are seeking literature about the societal and personal issues surrounding sexuality and gender, or if you are a therapist who is working with clients such as this and looking for texts to gain a greater understanding, then start your search here.

Once you have found what you are looking for, we highly recommend that you check out Gay’s The Word, a friendly and well stocked bookshop in central London that should meet your requirements. If you do not live in London, consider supporting us by visiting our Amazon shop and purchasing books from there.

We are currently in the process of transferring all of our resources from our old site into these pages, and will continue to add books and material regularly, so this section will continue to grow and expand. Please do visit again if you cannot find what you are looking for just yet. We are also open to suggestions, so if you would like to recommend an appropriate book or link, feel free to contact us.

Together Forever? The Gay Guide to Good Relationships

Together Forever? The Gay Guide to Good Relationships Image

Andrew Marshall. Pan Books, 1995

Key Elements:
Factual information and reflective questions help the reader to get a picture of what they want out of a relationship

Although this book contains information regarding HIV and AIDS that is dated, the author sets out the stages of gay relationships in a factual way drawing on numerous interviews with gay men who have been together and using the interviews to outline what changes gay men go through in relationships. Starting with ‘Finding the Right Partner’ which is part of stage one,’ the Blending Stage’ and how in this stage gay men focus exclusively on the new partner. Stage Two is called the ‘Nesting’, is setting up and sharing a living space together. Stage Three is called ‘Self Affirming’, is the importance of setting up and maintaining boundaries. Stage Four is ‘Collaborating’, it is about working together to stay together, being faithful or unfaithful and deciding on an open or closed relationship. Stage Five is ‘Adapting’ to the changes in the relationship and the changes to individuals in it. Stage Six is ‘Repartnering’ which focuses on growing old together. The book closes with the difference between gay and straight relationships. The book makes interesting reading for people who already find themselves in relationships.

Together Forever? The Gay Guide to Good Relationships

Together Forever? The Gay Guide to Good Relationships Image

Andrew Marshall. Pan Books, 1995

Key Elements:
Factual information and reflective questions help the reader to get a picture of what they want out of a relationship

Although this book contains information regarding HIV and AIDS that is dated, the author sets out the stages of gay relationships in a factual way drawing on numerous interviews with gay men who have been together and using the interviews to outline what changes gay men go through in relationships. Starting with ‘Finding the Right Partner’ which is part of stage one,’ the Blending Stage’ and how in this stage gay men focus exclusively on the new partner. Stage Two is called the ‘Nesting’, is setting up and sharing a living space together. Stage Three is called ‘Self Affirming’, is the importance of setting up and maintaining boundaries. Stage Four is ‘Collaborating’, it is about working together to stay together, being faithful or unfaithful and deciding on an open or closed relationship. Stage Five is ‘Adapting’ to the changes in the relationship and the changes to individuals in it. Stage Six is ‘Repartnering’ which focuses on growing old together. The book closes with the difference between gay and straight relationships. The book makes interesting reading for people who already find themselves in relationships.

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