Knowledge

This section contains recommendations of books for LGBTIQ and gender and sexual diversity therapists and clients, and provides links to other suitable organisations.

If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex or any other gender or sexual preference and are seeking literature about the societal and personal issues surrounding sexuality and gender, or if you are a therapist who is working with clients such as this and looking for texts to gain a greater understanding, then start your search here.

Once you have found what you are looking for, we highly recommend that you check out Gay’s The Word, a friendly and well stocked bookshop in central London that should meet your requirements. If you do not live in London, consider supporting us by visiting our Amazon shop and purchasing books from there.

We are currently in the process of transferring all of our resources from our old site into these pages, and will continue to add books and material regularly, so this section will continue to grow and expand. Please do visit again if you cannot find what you are looking for just yet. We are also open to suggestions, so if you would like to recommend an appropriate book or link, feel free to contact us.

Reclaiming Your Life. The Gay Men's Guide to Love, Self Acceptance, and Trust

Reclaiming Your Life. The Gay Men

Rik Isensee. Alyson Books, 1991, 1997

Key Elements: Provides the readers with a deep understanding of all of the topics covered, this includes definitions and background information on everything covered in the text. Many of the chapters at the end have ‘Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience’ which invites the reader to integrate and contrast with their own belief system. There are very good notes and references. Some of the issues mentioned have changed so what it refers to can feel dated, one example is the lack of recognition of gay relationships.

Part One: Homophobia and Trauma
The first part includes six different sections:
Chapter One, Growing Up Gay in a Homophobic Culture which details Homophobia and Heterosexism, How Homophobia Becomes Internalised, Establishing a Gay Identity, Phases in Self -Acceptance.
Chapter Two, Dysfunctional and Abusive Families contains information on the Origins of Positive Self Image, Dysfunctional Families Defined, the Intergenerational Cycle, Types of Abuse, and the Particular Abuse of Gay Boys.
Chapter Three, Effects of Abuse on Gay Sexuality outlines Child Molestation and Homophobia, Age Consent and Youthful Curiosity, a Definition of Sexual Abuse, Reactions to Sexual Abuse, Disclosing the Abuse, and The Effects of Intimate Relationships.
Chapter Four, Posttraumatic Stress explains the Effects of Trauma, AIDs as a Source of Trauma, Internalised Homophobia as a Form of Post-Traumatic Stress.
Chapter Five, Self-Blame and Shame shares information on Guilt and Shame , Abuse and Self-Blame, Homophobia and Shame, Religious Shame , and the Development of a False Self.
Chapter Six, Origins of Self-Destructive Behaviour, breaks down the Cycle of Shame, Alcohol and Substance Abuse Compulsive Behaviour, Sexual Compulsion, Relapse into Unsafe Sex, Overwork and Overachieving ,Food, Debt and Other Compulsions, Self- Deprivation, Co-Dependency in Gay Relationships, Repetition Compulsion and Revictimisation, and Domestic Violence.

Part Two: Reclaiming Your Life
The second part includes six different chapters
Chapter Seven, Understanding the Process of Healing, a walk through the stages of Healing
Chapter Eight, Recovery from Addictions and Compulsions covers the Reluctance to Seek Help, the Strategic Use of Will, Support for Recovery, Gaining Control over Compulsive Behaviour, Explaining the Moment between Impulse and Action, the Higher Power and the Nurturing Self, Spirituality and the Search for Meaning, Relating These Ideas to your Own Experience
Chapter Nine, Working Through Feelings helps the reader with How Feelings Work, Grieving for Your Lost Childhood, Gaining Access to Sadness, Feeling Overwhelmed, Depression, and Mobilizing Anger for Positive Change, Pacing Yourself, Awareness of Feeling Exercise.
Chapter Ten, Self-Nurturing focuses on Distortions in Thinking, How Thoughts Influence Feelings, Feelings versus Conclusions, Suicidal Impulses, Nurturing Your Own Child Self, The Cycle of Healing from Internalised Shame,
Chapter Eleven: All the information needed to increase the support around you points out Self Help, Friends and Lovers, Individual Psychotherapy, and What to Expect in Group Therapy
Chapter Twelve: Self Empowerment , How to empower one’s self through Countering Co-Dependency, Confrontation, The Issue of Forgiveness, Combating Homophobia, Creating Your Own Life.

Reclaiming Your Life. The Gay Men's Guide to Love, Self Acceptance, and Trust

Reclaiming Your Life. The Gay Men

Rik Isensee. Alyson Books, 1991, 1997

Key Elements: Provides the readers with a deep understanding of all of the topics covered, this includes definitions and background information on everything covered in the text. Many of the chapters at the end have ‘Relating These Ideas to Your Own Experience’ which invites the reader to integrate and contrast with their own belief system. There are very good notes and references. Some of the issues mentioned have changed so what it refers to can feel dated, one example is the lack of recognition of gay relationships.

Part One: Homophobia and Trauma
The first part includes six different sections:
Chapter One, Growing Up Gay in a Homophobic Culture which details Homophobia and Heterosexism, How Homophobia Becomes Internalised, Establishing a Gay Identity, Phases in Self -Acceptance.
Chapter Two, Dysfunctional and Abusive Families contains information on the Origins of Positive Self Image, Dysfunctional Families Defined, the Intergenerational Cycle, Types of Abuse, and the Particular Abuse of Gay Boys.
Chapter Three, Effects of Abuse on Gay Sexuality outlines Child Molestation and Homophobia, Age Consent and Youthful Curiosity, a Definition of Sexual Abuse, Reactions to Sexual Abuse, Disclosing the Abuse, and The Effects of Intimate Relationships.
Chapter Four, Posttraumatic Stress explains the Effects of Trauma, AIDs as a Source of Trauma, Internalised Homophobia as a Form of Post-Traumatic Stress.
Chapter Five, Self-Blame and Shame shares information on Guilt and Shame , Abuse and Self-Blame, Homophobia and Shame, Religious Shame , and the Development of a False Self.
Chapter Six, Origins of Self-Destructive Behaviour, breaks down the Cycle of Shame, Alcohol and Substance Abuse Compulsive Behaviour, Sexual Compulsion, Relapse into Unsafe Sex, Overwork and Overachieving ,Food, Debt and Other Compulsions, Self- Deprivation, Co-Dependency in Gay Relationships, Repetition Compulsion and Revictimisation, and Domestic Violence.

Part Two: Reclaiming Your Life
The second part includes six different chapters
Chapter Seven, Understanding the Process of Healing, a walk through the stages of Healing
Chapter Eight, Recovery from Addictions and Compulsions covers the Reluctance to Seek Help, the Strategic Use of Will, Support for Recovery, Gaining Control over Compulsive Behaviour, Explaining the Moment between Impulse and Action, the Higher Power and the Nurturing Self, Spirituality and the Search for Meaning, Relating These Ideas to your Own Experience
Chapter Nine, Working Through Feelings helps the reader with How Feelings Work, Grieving for Your Lost Childhood, Gaining Access to Sadness, Feeling Overwhelmed, Depression, and Mobilizing Anger for Positive Change, Pacing Yourself, Awareness of Feeling Exercise.
Chapter Ten, Self-Nurturing focuses on Distortions in Thinking, How Thoughts Influence Feelings, Feelings versus Conclusions, Suicidal Impulses, Nurturing Your Own Child Self, The Cycle of Healing from Internalised Shame,
Chapter Eleven: All the information needed to increase the support around you points out Self Help, Friends and Lovers, Individual Psychotherapy, and What to Expect in Group Therapy
Chapter Twelve: Self Empowerment , How to empower one’s self through Countering Co-Dependency, Confrontation, The Issue of Forgiveness, Combating Homophobia, Creating Your Own Life.

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